As adults we know what is expected of us, when it needs to be completed, why it needs to be completed and what will happen if we don’t show up for the task at hand. For a child with special needs, these aspects are unclear as far as expectations go, unless of course we clarify. In order to create an environment where a child can SHOW UP, we need to offer a framework that is clear and attainable. First C- Clarity. Use the 5 WH questions as a guide. What is expected, when, where with whom and even why. You can tack on how for even more clarity. Be clear with a visual, a list or check list. Second C- consistency..when a child faces similar expectations on the daily they are more likely to accomplish what is set out for them. Think schedule and routine. This can be for windows of time. Last C- Continuity-carry these expectations over to various environments. They are not limited to the home base. If at home the expectation is to clean up our dinner plate and put it in the garbage, in grandma’s house or in a restaurant it would be the same.
Gentle aspect: When a child is having a hard time meeting expectations, we can then look at what’s not on point with the expectations vs. blaming the child.
